I've always heard that the hardest job in the world is being a parent. While that job is difficult because one never knows if they are doing the right things for their kids. I believe the person that said that is only part correct on that statement.
I believe the hardest job in the world is being a "step" parent or parental figure. You get all the difficulties of being a parent and then throw in the fact that the kid isn't biologically yours. You love the kids as they are your own but depending on what age they are whenever you come into the picture there is not a guarantee they will see you as a parental figure no matter what you do.
I'm lucky to have a great woman who tries her best to ensure the kids realize that I am a parental figure in their life (God knows their biological father isn't), but that still doesn't force the kids to see me as a parent. Maybe with time and as they grow older and look back on their life they will realize that everything I ever did was done out of love for them.
Friday, May 15, 2009
Wednesday, March 4, 2009
Here at Last, Here at Last, Keira's here at last
It's been an exciting few days. On Monday Marsha convinced the doctor to induce on labor. The plans were all set we would go to the hospital at 3:00 PM on Tuesday and they would start her on a medicine called Cervidil. They would keep her on that medicine for 12 hours then on Wednesday morning they would start the Pitocin, which is suppose to help the contractions come along at a steady clip.
When we got to the hospital on Tuesday they checked her before starting the Cervidil and Marsha had already started dilating. So basically they let us stay the night and "relax" before all the hard work that had to be done today.
Today was an awesome day, although I don't know if awesome really begins to fully describe the day. Keira is not my first child....she is my first girl however but that's not really what made it so incredible.
Whenever my first, Jordan, was born I wanted so bad to do things "normal". (i.e. rush to the hospital, natural child birth, cut the cord, and all those good things) God didn't have that in the cards for us (Lecia and I) and that's ok because as rough as things were, I wouldn't change things because those times were just as awesome as today.
Today I got to witness my daughter being born and WOW, was that an amazing site. I think that if Marsha and I didn't already have so many kids I would want to do this with her again. (She doesn't know that yet, probably won't until she gets a chance to read this blog, LOL)
I just wanna close this blog out by saying God is Great and I'm a blessed man
When we got to the hospital on Tuesday they checked her before starting the Cervidil and Marsha had already started dilating. So basically they let us stay the night and "relax" before all the hard work that had to be done today.
Today was an awesome day, although I don't know if awesome really begins to fully describe the day. Keira is not my first child....she is my first girl however but that's not really what made it so incredible.
Whenever my first, Jordan, was born I wanted so bad to do things "normal". (i.e. rush to the hospital, natural child birth, cut the cord, and all those good things) God didn't have that in the cards for us (Lecia and I) and that's ok because as rough as things were, I wouldn't change things because those times were just as awesome as today.
Today I got to witness my daughter being born and WOW, was that an amazing site. I think that if Marsha and I didn't already have so many kids I would want to do this with her again. (She doesn't know that yet, probably won't until she gets a chance to read this blog, LOL)
I just wanna close this blog out by saying God is Great and I'm a blessed man
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Another Trip to the Hospital
So Marsha and I made another trip to the hospital this morning in hopes that we would be coming home in a day or so with our new baby, Keira. Evidently today, like all the other times was not the day to have her. It really sucks to because Marsha was having horrible contractions from about midnight until 11:00 this morning. I felt really bad for her because she was in so much pain and there was nothing I could to alleviate the pain.
I believe the most frustrating part of the whole experience today was the nurse that we got stuck with today or the fact that we both hate our incompetent doctor. The nurse really pissed me off because she had this tendency to talk down to Marsha and I like we are a bunch of stupid idiots. I can stand a lot of things and being treated a lot of ways, but being talked down to in that manner was completely unacceptable.
At work I have to deal with people constantly. I do my best to treat people with respect and try not to talk to them in a manner which would make them feel stupid about a computer problem, not even if the problem is one in which they caused. My question is why can't other people apply that same principle to their daily lives and the people they deal with while they are at work.
Even though I don't post regularly, and I have a lot of stuff that I could post about, I enjoy this because it gives me a chance to blow of some steam.
I am SO ready for Marsha to have this baby.
I believe the most frustrating part of the whole experience today was the nurse that we got stuck with today or the fact that we both hate our incompetent doctor. The nurse really pissed me off because she had this tendency to talk down to Marsha and I like we are a bunch of stupid idiots. I can stand a lot of things and being treated a lot of ways, but being talked down to in that manner was completely unacceptable.
At work I have to deal with people constantly. I do my best to treat people with respect and try not to talk to them in a manner which would make them feel stupid about a computer problem, not even if the problem is one in which they caused. My question is why can't other people apply that same principle to their daily lives and the people they deal with while they are at work.
Even though I don't post regularly, and I have a lot of stuff that I could post about, I enjoy this because it gives me a chance to blow of some steam.
I am SO ready for Marsha to have this baby.
Thursday, January 22, 2009
Windows 7 Beta test
I'm typing this from a gadget I found in the new Windows 7 beta. Just wanted to see what it would do
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
Memories
Like most everyone, I have a myspace page and I enjoy reading the things people post on their myspace. It usually gives you some insight to who the person is or who the person wants to be at least.
Somehow I ended up on Lecia's myspace page and I noticed her blogs. I saw the blog which she had posted back in August about her life 10 years ago. I know what her life was like 10 years ago, I was there. She talked a little bit about Jordan and skimmed the top about the good and bad about Jordan being born at 24 weeks gestation, which is 16 weeks early for those who don't know.
As she states in her blog, the experience has "brought tears to my eyes every time I close them and relive it."She nailed it on the head with that statement, and actually with everything she said in her blog.
It amazes me that even after 10 years the memories of all of the events that started Jordan's journey in life are still so vivid. I can still remember the ambulance ride from Brazosport Memorial to UTMB-Galveston. I remember the medical students and residents constantly checking on Lecia throughout the night just so they could learn that little bit extra, sitting the operating room as the cut Lecia open and then had to perform a "T-cut" on her uterus because even though Jordan was as small as he was, his head was to big. I could go on for a long time about the things I remember the experiences we had while Jordan was in the hospital and even there after but the last thing I will remember is Christy (I think that's how u spell it).
Christy was a special person. She was probably more special to us than she ever realized. She was the one person that seemed to believe in Jordan when no one else did. She was there to help us make sure we pushed the doctors and asked the doctors for certain things that ended up allowing Jordan to come home.
As I sit here trying to finish this blog, my eyes are welling up with tears thinking of what a gaurdian angel Christy really was. I know all the credit goes to God for Jordan still being with us and I just wanna make sure He gets all the credit for putting Christy in our lives at that time.
I'm not sure if this is one coherent thought or just a bunch of ramblings but those are the memories that popped into my head after reading a simple post on myspace.
Somehow I ended up on Lecia's myspace page and I noticed her blogs. I saw the blog which she had posted back in August about her life 10 years ago. I know what her life was like 10 years ago, I was there. She talked a little bit about Jordan and skimmed the top about the good and bad about Jordan being born at 24 weeks gestation, which is 16 weeks early for those who don't know.
As she states in her blog, the experience has "brought tears to my eyes every time I close them and relive it."She nailed it on the head with that statement, and actually with everything she said in her blog.
It amazes me that even after 10 years the memories of all of the events that started Jordan's journey in life are still so vivid. I can still remember the ambulance ride from Brazosport Memorial to UTMB-Galveston. I remember the medical students and residents constantly checking on Lecia throughout the night just so they could learn that little bit extra, sitting the operating room as the cut Lecia open and then had to perform a "T-cut" on her uterus because even though Jordan was as small as he was, his head was to big. I could go on for a long time about the things I remember the experiences we had while Jordan was in the hospital and even there after but the last thing I will remember is Christy (I think that's how u spell it).
Christy was a special person. She was probably more special to us than she ever realized. She was the one person that seemed to believe in Jordan when no one else did. She was there to help us make sure we pushed the doctors and asked the doctors for certain things that ended up allowing Jordan to come home.
As I sit here trying to finish this blog, my eyes are welling up with tears thinking of what a gaurdian angel Christy really was. I know all the credit goes to God for Jordan still being with us and I just wanna make sure He gets all the credit for putting Christy in our lives at that time.
I'm not sure if this is one coherent thought or just a bunch of ramblings but those are the memories that popped into my head after reading a simple post on myspace.
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
Keira's First Real Ultrasound
This is the ultrasound video where we found out Keira is a girl. This was a pretty awesome day as I talked about in a previous post.
Longing for Home
I'm currently sitting in a hotel room at the Wyndham in Las Colinas, which is in Irving Tx. I had to come up here for a training class for work. I enjoy coming up here to Irving and staying at the hotel because it gives me a break from the normal everyday grind and I get to learn new skills for my job.
This trip is different though because even though I'm enjoying the time in class and learning the new skills. I am so ready to get home so I can see and hold Marsha in my arms and rub on her growing stomach as Keira gets bigger and bigger by the day.
This trip is different though because even though I'm enjoying the time in class and learning the new skills. I am so ready to get home so I can see and hold Marsha in my arms and rub on her growing stomach as Keira gets bigger and bigger by the day.
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
First Attempt.
So I'm gonna give this blogging thing a shot. I've never been one to write down or even verbalize my feelings or what's going through my head, which is probably a good thing for most people, but I'm sitting here at work at 1:15 in the morning waiting on some SQL scripts to run so I figured I would at least attempt it.
A few months ago my gf and I found out she was pregnant, I was scared and excited all in the same breath. I was scared because between us we already have 6 kids and I'm not sure that we could handle another. It's a big responsibility to bring a life into this world, especially since we aren't exactly in the greatest of shape financially. On the other hand I was really excited because I love babies and I had thought about wanting another one for quite some time. A lot of people, especially family members thought we were crazy for letting it happen, but at that point it wasn't going to change the fact that she was pregnant.
As her and I have gone through this pregnancy and have shared the experience with the kids, hers and mine, I believe it has drawn us closer. On the 10th of November, we went to the doctor and had an ultrasound done and found out that our miracle of life is going to be a girl. I can't even begin to describe the emotions that ran through me when the ultrasound tech told us it was a girl and begin to show us how she could tell through the grainy black and white images being displayed on the screen in front of our eyes.
For years I have thought no matter what I did, I would always be blessed with boys over girls. Most guys probably wouldn't complain about that, but I always wanted to have a daughter, a daddy's little girl. I just didn't think it would happen, but it did and I'm thrilled about that.
I am ready for March to get here so I can hold my precious lil girl in my arms, at least I think I'm ready, lol
A few months ago my gf and I found out she was pregnant, I was scared and excited all in the same breath. I was scared because between us we already have 6 kids and I'm not sure that we could handle another. It's a big responsibility to bring a life into this world, especially since we aren't exactly in the greatest of shape financially. On the other hand I was really excited because I love babies and I had thought about wanting another one for quite some time. A lot of people, especially family members thought we were crazy for letting it happen, but at that point it wasn't going to change the fact that she was pregnant.
As her and I have gone through this pregnancy and have shared the experience with the kids, hers and mine, I believe it has drawn us closer. On the 10th of November, we went to the doctor and had an ultrasound done and found out that our miracle of life is going to be a girl. I can't even begin to describe the emotions that ran through me when the ultrasound tech told us it was a girl and begin to show us how she could tell through the grainy black and white images being displayed on the screen in front of our eyes.
For years I have thought no matter what I did, I would always be blessed with boys over girls. Most guys probably wouldn't complain about that, but I always wanted to have a daughter, a daddy's little girl. I just didn't think it would happen, but it did and I'm thrilled about that.
I am ready for March to get here so I can hold my precious lil girl in my arms, at least I think I'm ready, lol
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